Deciding when you should become pregnant may be one of the biggest, if not the biggest, decision that you’ll ever make. Getting pregnant isn’t always as easy as many people believe that it will be, and actually being pregnant isn’t always as beautiful and easy as it’s depicted in the movies. You have to be prepared for more than just a baby in the next nine months; it’s so much more than that.
The biggest thing you need to look at when you are thinking about becoming pregnant is your lifestyle. Children need a stable home life, even when they are first born. If you feel as though you are settled down and ready to give your life to a child, then chances are that you are ready for a child. Is your home safe? Will you have room for your child in your home? Are you ready to give up late nights out with your friends? Having a child really is a lifestyle change because you can no longer be the spontaneous person you were before having children because just getting out of the house with children takes a bit of work! If you are in relationship, you’ll want to be sure that it’s a stable one because your child will need two parents. If you plan on raising a child by yourself, consider the support system you’ll need to work, or just have a break every now and again.
Finances are another big issue when you are considering becoming pregnant. Children are expensive, and no one can really afford to have children because they cost a lot of money. But, you should be financially stable before getting pregnant. If you are in debt, you might want to think about paying off your debts before bringing another person into the family. If you are going to school to further your career, you might want to hold off on becoming pregnant until you finish your schooling and land the job that you want. Too many women say that they’ll go back after they have their children, only to never realize those plans and dreams. It’s easier to get these things done and then bring your child into a life where many of your dreams and plans have already been realized.
If you feel as though you are ready to settle down and you believe that you can afford a child, the next thing you must consider is your health. If you’ve had any major illnesses or surgeries, you might want to discuss becoming pregnant with your healthcare provider to see if getting pregnant is something that you should be considering at this point in time. A physical is always a good idea before you start trying to conceive, because a doctor can work with you to decide when the right time for you to get pregnant is. When you have the green light and you are sure you are ready, go for it!
Getting pregnant is actually a science and involves more than having sex. You need to have sex at the right time, usually ten to fourteen days after your period has ended, when you are ovulating. Many women know when they are ovulating, and the day or two before will be a prime time to have sex. If you have trouble figuring out if and when you are ovulating, ovulation kits can be purchased at most drug stores. Most couples have to try for a couple months before becoming pregnant, and most doctors do not worry about your not becoming pregnant for about 12 months. So, keep trying, and when everything falls into place, it will happen for you!